So what if you've drawn fire and now you want a cease-fire? A blogging friend of mine experienced just that, and I offered this affirmation (edited for this blog):
I remind myself of my true self which is love, peace, and beauty. I remind myself of the true selves of others which is also love, peace, and beauty. No matter what happens, I am grounded in this truth and I am safe from harm. I participate joyfully in any discussion, as my true self, knowing the truth of my being will guide me towards harmony and respect. And so it is."