Dec 25, 2007

A Christmas post

Every other blogger has something to say about the holiday, so I decided to, too, instead of feeling left out.

First off let me say this: I wasn't traumatized by Christmas growing up and I knew extremely early that Santa doesn't exist. I love Christmas movies, because I love the combination of magic and inevitably happy ending with a touch of moral-to-the-story. And yes, "It's a Wonderful Life" is a favorite.

So what does Christmas mean to me? Nothing. That's right, I said nothing. I'm not Christian, I'm not hung up on tradition and haven't made any of my own, and I don't have to have certain things or things a certain way at Christmas so as not to feel left out or lonely or un-Christmassy. (Except maybe my own blogpost about it.)

I enjoy the lights, the atmosphere, the constant greeting other people with "god jul"/"Merry Christmas", the reminders to be generous, the spirit of the season, but I don't decorate or go overboard with the food, though I'll dress up. Sometimes I'll play Christmas carols. I like buying presents for people, but I don't like crowds. That last is a year-round thing, though.

The most important thing about Christmas for me is what I just did: Spend lots of time with people I love.


Miz UV said...

I grew up with Christmas, in a secular way. My mom did the tree, cookies, prezzies, etc. No church, No Jesus. My dad, being Jewish and not caring much either way, went along. Then I married a Jewish guy and agreed to raise our kids Jewish (even did some Jewish education and had an adult bat mitzvah!), so Christmas meant even less to me, though I always enjoyed the lights and stuff. Now cuz of my mom being so sick, I'm doing a holiday lunch today. I know she doesn't like the idea of Christmas being nothing special. Didn't have time for cookies, but I do have M&M brownies--very festive!

Keera Ann Fox said...

My family was secular about Christmas; we never had nativity scenes, for example. But my Grandma did believe in God, so I wasn't raised entirely atheist. And in Norway, where Evangelical Lutheran is the state religion, we schoolkids would attend Christmas mass. I even read out loud from the Gospel of Luke one year.

I guess my mixed experience is why nothing stands out. It's always about the people in our lives, anyway, isn't it. I hope this Christmas lets you focus on the love, Paula.

alice said...

I loved Christmases when I was a kid, and I loved them when had a kid. The best thing about all the others is the complete lack of obligation that I feel toward the holiday. I can do a little or a lot and feel fine about it.

I'm glad you had a good one!

Sravana said...

My family was very religious about Xmas, and it still feels strange to not go to church. My folks like to hear that I've been to church, but I had the perfect excuse this year - after the breakup of my 7-year relationship I simply didn't want to go alone to church where everyone else was in a family.

I had a nice dinner with some friends, but it wasn't festive at all, and I ended up going home early after a rather unpleasant incident. grumble.

My word verification sounds like waterboarding: ggagbd. pfft!

I'm glad you all had a pleasant day.

Keera Ann Fox said...

I feel like you do, Alice. That I have options in how I want to celebrate.

I'm sorry Christmas wasn't a good holiday for you this year, Sravana.

max said...

Christmas is always much cheerier than my Birthday or Thanksgiving. I just like the fun.

['I've never paid any mind to the religious aspects, since they're really kind of wrong anyways.']

Keera Ann Fox said...

I liked your tree. :-) That really is the spirit of it, isn't it: Just acknowledge the holiday; no need to max out the credit card.